What's making you suffer right now?
Is it your situation? Or is it your narrative?
Because your situation might be what it is because of the narrative you're telling yourself. And that might be what's causing you to suffer.
Suffering, unless you have a serious or life threatening illness, is mostly self induced. I know it hurts to hear this. It hurts me particularly this week because I have been doing some pretty intense suffering of my own, but if I am completely honest here, I brought a lot of it on myself. Ok. No. I brought it all on myself. I have a million good excuses that I could roll out right here and now for having put myself through some pretty tortuous mental gymnastics that have gotten me absolutely nowhere except sleepless.
But instead of beating myself up about it, I'm dissecting it - and turning it around. What if the situation that I was in was happening to my best friend instead of to me? How would I react then? I know exactly what I would do.
I'd tell her that objectively speaking, her situation is just not that bad. That there are a lot of people who would just love to be in her position, even though it's stressful right now. And that she's got the strength and ability to change things up and make herself feel better. That she's strong. That she's got a lion's heart and that she is courageous. Then I decided it's time to be my own best friend. Because those are the things I need to hear right now about myself. That I have the power to change the things that are not working about my own situation.
This doesn't just work for me, by the way. I'm not the only one holding on to things that hurt me. What about you? What can you let go of today that is going to help you change your narrative about your situation?
Let go of trying to be perfect. You know this. I don't have to repeat it. Do I?
Let go of judging people. Even the ones you think you know especially well. Don't judge anyone. Everyone has the chance to learn new things, to change and to grow and be different than how you perceive him or her to be.
Let go of thinking you can't change. What you believed yesterday or ten years ago might not hold water any more. Shed the ideas and notions you have that no longer work.
Let go of resisting. When resistance comes to visit, know that you feel it the most when you need it the least.
Let go of the past. The past counts, but not nearly as much as you think. And it does not in any way predict what you're capable of in the future.
Let go of trying to be fabulous at the things you suck at. <- click to tweet If you blast through life riding the tide of your strengths, you will have a blast. If you struggle through life trying to be masterfully good at things you don't like doing, you will suffer - and that is completely self induced suffering. Don't like accounting? Get an accountant. Let her explain what you need to know, and let her do her job.
Let go of telling yourself you don't need any help.
Let go of believing that other people are making you miserable. You can feel anything you want. Just know that your feeling world is about you and not about anyone making you feel anything. It can also be divorced from reality - feelings often are. If you are feeling sad and anxious, it's very likely got more to do with your perception of your situation than the situation itself.
Let go of haters.
Let go of the idea that past traumas keep us from moving forward. Our stories effect who we are. But the upshot of this is that these stories, however they happened to us and worked through us, are there to help us understand ourselves. When something moves us, it's like a crack appears, and through that crack glows a warm light, and that light propels us forward into a new understanding. Let your past move you forward. Your stories are your wisdom.
What do you want to let go of today that would make your life joyful?